If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and
make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely
mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach -
a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.
But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can
follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article,
I'm going to break down those steps.
The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between
someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or
mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make
out.
I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into
a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for,
your odds of success go WAY down.
You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."
Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen.
Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the
time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys
are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up
going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys
in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.
By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see
the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the
first place.
There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar
atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant
make-out session.
What To Look For
The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.
Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access
different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues."
When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her
emotional brain.
If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's
saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm
looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just
use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little
bit lower and showing submission.
This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.
Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a
lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and
not showing immediate submission.
Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40
seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a
woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to quickly make out
with her.
Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye
contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone
specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to
seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer.
Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game
when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.
So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's
constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of
people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and
that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.
Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're
dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width
apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be
available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing
in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably
be a lot more resistant.
Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her
legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a
little bit.
Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's
super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the
kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.
This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to
dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care"
and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants
with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really
beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone
who's in between those two extremes.
A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want
to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is
going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking
around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for
you (and her, of course).
That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you
see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that
she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.
If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.
Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there
are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment)
you're going to walk up and start the scary part.
What To Do
This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's
very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's
frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this.
By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what
they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that
experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels
comfortable making out with you immediately.
I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll
explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try
it...
Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you
get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you
to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…"
Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment."
You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP
here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they
immediately register whatever comes after that.
So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately,
you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your
head.
So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with
me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make
out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out
with me right now!"
You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out
with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with
this guy."
Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.
Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's
one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really
does want to be seduced by a man.
So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and
you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that
starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop."
My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."
Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going
to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."
And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same
when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same
time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her
eyes again.
This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then
look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to
three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four
times as you're talking.
This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little
bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.
So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss
and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just
filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still
controlling the interaction.
So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand –
whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't
pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
Signs That It's Working
Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a
green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want
to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.
This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and
turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a
conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.
For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away
then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if
you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and
continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back
off and find another woman.
If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and
excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost
directly into her ear.
!Important!
In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't
raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very,
very close to her ear for her to hear.
Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is
going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I
won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody
either."
As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my
breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than
normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.
This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.
As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press
your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move you head
over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start
kissing her.
And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then
go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this
description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a
lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen
other guys do it, too.
Practice It
What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute
or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or
even 30) seconds.
You won't use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is
right, it's really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want
to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to
speak.
Whenever you see a girl who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if
you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time,
she'll be turned off and you've lost a golden seduction opportunity.
Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that
that's what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is
the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and
seducing a woman... and guys who wish that they were great at quickly
seducing a woman.
There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques
on how to speak with the right tonality... how to touch her that allows
her to feel comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert
switches... specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make
sure she's totally in your zone.
What's taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is
knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them
out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.
Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and
remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or
less.
Discover my other top 3 "Seduction Secrets" in this special video presentation.
3 Ways to Improve Success in Free Online Dating Sites
We are currently in an era where almost everything can be done over
the Internet. Ordering food, buying tickets to a movie, talking to
someone overseas, playing poker, dating... Yes, even dating. In 2008
alone, around 12 million people in the United States used over 100
online dating sites and since then, the number has grown exponentially.
In recent surveys, results revealed that about 20 percent of people in
committed relationships and 17 percent of married people met their
partners through these sites.
Ways to Improve Success in Free Online Dating Sites
Many people have experienced success in meeting someone they are compatible with over the Internet. Not everyone is lucky, though. If you are a newbie and just want to try it out or if you are one of those who have not been lucky yet, here are three of the most important things you need to remember to find success in free online dating sites.
1. Build an awesome profile with great photos.
Make your personality shine through your profile. Your profile and photos make or break the deal. If your profile page is interesting, there is a bigger chance that people would pay more attention. Negative statements on your profile will have the opposite effect so it's better to keep things positive. Of course, you have to face the fact that the way you look is a very important factor in getting people to pay attention. Post nice, recent photos of yourself. Instead of sticking with generic photos of you just posing for a picture, you should show that you are fun to be with by including shots of you doing interesting things.
2. Learn techniques on how to communicate effectively.
Learning the art of effective communication will help keep your prospect hooked. Asking questions about the other person will let them feel that you really want to get to know them better. You don't have to really exaggerate on compliments but a few thrown here and there would take you places as well. Try giving them positive comments about their picture or their profile. Obviously, you have to choose respectful words. Avoid being lewd or rude, especially since you were merely strangers before you encountered each other online.
3. Make a great impression on your first date.
Getting a date from the online dating site is not the measure of success. Your actual date will form the other person's view about you so the impression that make during that first date is very important. Confidence is something which can attract the other person to you but be careful because overconfidence can be quite a turn-off.
Ways to Improve Success in Free Online Dating Sites
Many people have experienced success in meeting someone they are compatible with over the Internet. Not everyone is lucky, though. If you are a newbie and just want to try it out or if you are one of those who have not been lucky yet, here are three of the most important things you need to remember to find success in free online dating sites.
1. Build an awesome profile with great photos.
Make your personality shine through your profile. Your profile and photos make or break the deal. If your profile page is interesting, there is a bigger chance that people would pay more attention. Negative statements on your profile will have the opposite effect so it's better to keep things positive. Of course, you have to face the fact that the way you look is a very important factor in getting people to pay attention. Post nice, recent photos of yourself. Instead of sticking with generic photos of you just posing for a picture, you should show that you are fun to be with by including shots of you doing interesting things.
2. Learn techniques on how to communicate effectively.
Learning the art of effective communication will help keep your prospect hooked. Asking questions about the other person will let them feel that you really want to get to know them better. You don't have to really exaggerate on compliments but a few thrown here and there would take you places as well. Try giving them positive comments about their picture or their profile. Obviously, you have to choose respectful words. Avoid being lewd or rude, especially since you were merely strangers before you encountered each other online.
3. Make a great impression on your first date.
Getting a date from the online dating site is not the measure of success. Your actual date will form the other person's view about you so the impression that make during that first date is very important. Confidence is something which can attract the other person to you but be careful because overconfidence can be quite a turn-off.
11 top online dating mistakes people make
Online dating is not a taboo anymore. Today, more and more people
are turning to online dating due to it's convenience in this busy
world. If you're deciding to try online dating or already have, here are
11 of the top online dating mistakes people make. Try to avoid these at
all cost.
1. Terrible profile picture
This is the "first impression" of the online world. Have a non-creepy picture that doesn't have you sitting in front of a mirror taking a picture of yourself with your phone. Or the crappy quality of your webcam. Even though a lot of people do this, it's better to spend some time and maybe even a little money on the quality of your pictures. Have a photographer take picture of you. Use scenery. Have a picture that sends a message about you. You also should have an updated picture of yourself. Nothing 4 years ago when you were skinny and in high school.
2. Your page gives off the wrong impression
Reread everything you put online about yourself. Don't give off a boring vibe by listing boring hobbies. Talk positive. Be ambitious and mention your goals and aspirations (unless they have to do with dragons and video games). If you want a serious partner, you have to give off a serious vibe. When you're done writing, read it again. Feel the mood your profile has and change it accordingly. You want to seem adventurous.
3. Not having fun
You have to have fun with online dating. If no one is talking to you and you're pouting, that isn't going to make it better. Don't always try hitting on everyone you find attractive. Try to make friends. Try to find people with the same interest.
4. It's a numbers game
It's all about how long you have been online and how many people you talk to. The more people you interact with the better your chances of meeting someone. It's also how far you're willing to dig or look. If you want someone in your area that is fine but it's recommended that you date within 1- 40 miles.
5. Bad advertising
This is similar to the first two but it's just so important that I have to mention it again. It's an online dating world. People don't know you so they're strictly judging you on your profile and pictures. You have to make sure you are the guy they want to date. You have to advertise yourself as someone who isn't going to waste their time.
6. State what you're looking for
Besides your profile picture, this is the second thing people look for. They want to know your intentions and what you want out of the meeting. Depending on what you have will bring different crowds of people.
7. Lying
It's okay to bend the truth. You can say you have a degree if in three months your graduating with a degree. It's not okay to say you're a millionaire when you're not. Or even worse saying you don't have kids but you really have three.
8. Too much time messaging back and forth
A lot of people are afraid to take the next step and initiate a meeting. It can last a while but every time you message after the first day of meeting each other online, the chemistry and attraction decreases with every message already. Now of course no one is eager to meet you the next day or give their number out after 15 minutes of talking but don't message like you're texting your best friend. Message here, then again later on, then again tomorrow morning, then during your break at work, and so on. By messaging periodically over a longer time frame, you won't get bored or burnt out of each other and the longer time frame will play an illusion that you're actually closer and more comfortable around each other.
9. Escalating too fast
Just as mentioned above. If you go to fast and asking for a number within 3 text, you're labeled a creep and your chances are greatly reduced. It's about building rapport.
10. Revealing too much
Leave some mystery. People love the unknown. That is what draws us to things. Don't underestimate the power of human curiosity. If possible, keep the topic on them. They will soon learn that they talked to you all this time but don't know a lot about you. That should draw them in more now as they seek information about you. Of course, don't be weird. If they ask you a question, answer it.
11. Bad username
Don't have a bad or corny username. People will turn away from you and think your a joke. The only way someone can get to know you personality online is through your text. So don't say something awkward in your profile and don't have an awkward username. Use a shorter version of your name. Abbreviate it. for example, for me it would be "lmathis". simple as that.
Put these 11 tips into practice and avoid these at all cost. If you do so, you would be amazed on how much more successful you're going to be.
1. Terrible profile picture
This is the "first impression" of the online world. Have a non-creepy picture that doesn't have you sitting in front of a mirror taking a picture of yourself with your phone. Or the crappy quality of your webcam. Even though a lot of people do this, it's better to spend some time and maybe even a little money on the quality of your pictures. Have a photographer take picture of you. Use scenery. Have a picture that sends a message about you. You also should have an updated picture of yourself. Nothing 4 years ago when you were skinny and in high school.
2. Your page gives off the wrong impression
Reread everything you put online about yourself. Don't give off a boring vibe by listing boring hobbies. Talk positive. Be ambitious and mention your goals and aspirations (unless they have to do with dragons and video games). If you want a serious partner, you have to give off a serious vibe. When you're done writing, read it again. Feel the mood your profile has and change it accordingly. You want to seem adventurous.
3. Not having fun
You have to have fun with online dating. If no one is talking to you and you're pouting, that isn't going to make it better. Don't always try hitting on everyone you find attractive. Try to make friends. Try to find people with the same interest.
4. It's a numbers game
It's all about how long you have been online and how many people you talk to. The more people you interact with the better your chances of meeting someone. It's also how far you're willing to dig or look. If you want someone in your area that is fine but it's recommended that you date within 1- 40 miles.
5. Bad advertising
This is similar to the first two but it's just so important that I have to mention it again. It's an online dating world. People don't know you so they're strictly judging you on your profile and pictures. You have to make sure you are the guy they want to date. You have to advertise yourself as someone who isn't going to waste their time.
6. State what you're looking for
Besides your profile picture, this is the second thing people look for. They want to know your intentions and what you want out of the meeting. Depending on what you have will bring different crowds of people.
7. Lying
It's okay to bend the truth. You can say you have a degree if in three months your graduating with a degree. It's not okay to say you're a millionaire when you're not. Or even worse saying you don't have kids but you really have three.
8. Too much time messaging back and forth
A lot of people are afraid to take the next step and initiate a meeting. It can last a while but every time you message after the first day of meeting each other online, the chemistry and attraction decreases with every message already. Now of course no one is eager to meet you the next day or give their number out after 15 minutes of talking but don't message like you're texting your best friend. Message here, then again later on, then again tomorrow morning, then during your break at work, and so on. By messaging periodically over a longer time frame, you won't get bored or burnt out of each other and the longer time frame will play an illusion that you're actually closer and more comfortable around each other.
9. Escalating too fast
Just as mentioned above. If you go to fast and asking for a number within 3 text, you're labeled a creep and your chances are greatly reduced. It's about building rapport.
10. Revealing too much
Leave some mystery. People love the unknown. That is what draws us to things. Don't underestimate the power of human curiosity. If possible, keep the topic on them. They will soon learn that they talked to you all this time but don't know a lot about you. That should draw them in more now as they seek information about you. Of course, don't be weird. If they ask you a question, answer it.
11. Bad username
Don't have a bad or corny username. People will turn away from you and think your a joke. The only way someone can get to know you personality online is through your text. So don't say something awkward in your profile and don't have an awkward username. Use a shorter version of your name. Abbreviate it. for example, for me it would be "lmathis". simple as that.
Put these 11 tips into practice and avoid these at all cost. If you do so, you would be amazed on how much more successful you're going to be.
Online Dating Tips for Singles Over 50
So, where does one start the process? Here are a few pointers:
- For starters, it is recommended that singles, in the 50 plus group, join one large, general site as well as a smaller site specifically targeted to their age group. A Google search will bring up a number of online dating sites from which to choose from.
- Before joining a site, decide what it is that you want out of the site. Are you looking for friendship, do you want to date, are you looking for a companion, or searching for the love of your life? It can save a lot of wasted effort, too, if you think carefully about the traits of the people you'd like to meet before starting your search. Do you want someone in the same line of work as you? Someone retired? Does age matter to you? Would smoking or drinking be problematic? Would you prefer an introvert or an extrovert? You get the idea. You may find yourself interested in people who have only some of the traits you've determined as important and that's perfectly o.k.
- Write an honest, descriptive profile. Avoid exaggeration or flat-out lying. Be yourself.
- Make sure to post a flattering photo of yourself, as well. Make it a recent photo, though. If you're unsure about the picture you're thinking of using, ask your friends for their opinion.
Eventually, though, you will find yourself communicating with someone in whom you are interested and the two of you agree to meet. Following are some tips about how to handle that first date:
- Your first date should be held in a public place, preferably during the day.
- Make sure to let someone know where you're going, with whom, and the length of time you expect to be on the date.
- Always take a cell phone with you. If you drive, park close by and don't let your date walk you to the car at the end of the date. Don't even let them know the type of car you drive.
- Until you get to really know and trust the people you meet online, it's wise to not reveal any personal information that could put you at risk.
- Awkward pauses can seem to stretch on forever during a first date! So, to keep the conversation going, you might prepare at least three conversation starters. You can ask about their last memorable meal, or places they want to visit. Movies, books, and television shows are also good conversation starters.
- It's important to remember that if, for any reason, you begin feeling uncomfortable during the date, make an excuse and leave.
Top 15 Online Dating Tips
1. Post a recent photo of yourself that's flattering and actually looks like you.
Chances are you have one really fantastic photo of yourself that was
taken at just the right angle that you look ever so slightly like Blake
Lively or Jake Gyllenhaal. Don't post that picture. Post the picture
that actually looks like you - you on a good day (in great
lighting). You want people to know what to expect and not be
disappointed when it's you who shows up for your date.2. Be unique and specific in your profile. Everyone likes to have fun, okay? Everyone likes hanging out with friends, listening to music, and "going out." So tell people something they don't already know about you, like that the beer you brewed in your backyard last summer won first prize in a home brewing contest, or that you do a brilliant version of "Tainted Love" at karaoke.
3. Avoid negative language in your profile. It should go without saying that mentioning an ex or how bad a past relationship was is a definite no-no when writing an online profile, but in the same vein, negative language (anything that starts with: "I hate," "I don't like," "I don't know") all sound lame and cast a shadow over you, too.
4. Only respond to people who interest you. If you post a flattering photo and write a unique and upbeat profile, chances are you'll get lots of responses from potential suitors. Do NOT respond to all of them. Only pick the ones who truly appeal to you to reply to. For all the others, no message is the message... and it's a lot kinder (and faster) than saying, "Hmm, no thanks."
5. Avoid Googling a potential match. Let's say you happen to get a whole name - or enough info about a potential match that you're able to track him or her on Google. Don't do it! It's more fun to learn stuff about people the old-fashioned way (through conversation), and you don't risk making presumptions or inadvertently revealing that you know something you shouldn't.
6. Keep your emails brief. A general rule of thumb: two paragraphs is ideal; respond to something that was shared with you; share something new about yourself; ask at least one question the other person can answer; and leave plenty to talk about for your first date.
7. If there's interest, meet in person quickly. Respond to messages within a day or two (three tops!), and make plans to meet up in person after you've exchanged a handful of messages. If it's been three weeks - or three months! - and you're still emailing someone you haven't made plans to meet, then what you've got is a pen-pal and there's probably a reason things haven't progressed past that.
8. Protect your privacy. Keep your address, place of employment, and other personal information to yourself until you've gone out on at least a couple dates. I mean, duh.
9. Meet in public and tell at least one person where you'll be and what time you expect to be home.
10. Plan a first date that can be short, sweet, and low-key, like lunch or a coffee date. The last thing you need is to get stuck on some long, drawn-out date with someone who bores you to tears, so use the first date to see if there's a spark (which you can figure out in about five minutes), and it there is one, you can plan something longer or more intimate for the next time.
11. Keep your options open! Just because you've had a few great email exchanges - or even a couple awesome dates - with someone doesn't mean you should log off the site just yet. People - especially ones who are practically strangers to you - have a way of being flakey and can disappear, change their minds, or simply let you down. That's not to say that won't happen at any point in your relationship, but there's a great likelihood of these things happening early on, so keep your options open until you're ready to be exclusive.
12. Don't date someone just for "practice." Let's say you've gotten a few responses to your profile, but no one is really knocking your socks off. It's been a bit of a dry spell for you and you're feeling a little rusty when it comes to dating, so you figure what's the harm in going out with one of these people just to oil the ol' engine. The harm is you're leading someone on, wasting valuable time (theirs and yours) and creating bad karma in the process. If you know you aren't interested, MOA.
13. Don't take the rejection personally. Not only can you not be everyone's type, there are plenty of reasons people pass on potential matches that have little to do with the other person. Maybe you look too much like the ex who broke his heart. His loss.
14. Take a break if you're feeling jaded. This goes back to #3. You don't have to necessarily use negative language in your profile to wreak of negativity. A bad attitude - and desperation - is just as bad. So, if you find yourself getting discouraged about the way things are going, close your account for a month or two, regroup and come back after you've cleared your head (and aura).
15. Try different sites. Another thing you can do if you're feeling discouraged, is simply try a different site. Dating sites are like restaurants - some of them have better menus than others. So if nothing at your current spot sounds appetizing, move along. There are plenty of places out there to dine...
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